Ever since I discovered my mother’s address on the internet, I’ve sent her flowers for Mother’s Day, honoring her for the contribution she made to my current life here on Planet Earth.
For the first couple of years (since the address discovery), I sent her a Mother’s Day card and enclosed some packets of yellow and pink flower seeds. Last year, I sent her a real flower arrangement.
This year, I procrastinated. Didn’t get a card and didn’t order flowers. I wanted to send flowers again but money has been tight and I wasn’t sure I wanted to spend money on sending something to someone who doesn’t want me in her life. I could use that money to pay a doctor bill, you know.
I hemmed and hawed around in my head, trying to make a decision, not coming up with anything, going back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. Holy cannoli. What the hell. Just make a flipping’ decision already!
So I did.
I decided it’s the one time of year that I acknowledge her and I do it because it’s also the day that honors her for being my mother, for birthing me, for being there (such as it was) when I was growing up. And yes, because of all that, it’s the one day we’re actually “connected” whether she likes it or not. To me, it’s a celebration of all the “good” things that come with being a mother, and for making it through all the “bad” things that came with the same job description… and I think she deserves recognition for being my mother.
And thanks to the internet, I’ll probably always be able to find her wherever she goes.
So, I just got off the phone (minutes ago) with Michelle at the florist nearest to my mom’s home – I ordered a bright, spring-y, lots-of-flowers arrangement in a “keepsake vase,” whatever that is. From Michelle’s description, it’ll be something like this photo to the right, although not exactly like this (because this is one of Teleflora’s special arrangements for M-Day and you can order this particular arrangement to be sent anywhere in the country that Teleflora delivers).
I think my mother will like it.
Since we all had to have a mother to be here on this planet at this time (other than test tube babies, although someone had to donate an egg or something, right?), I wish every one of us a Big Happy Day of Mom Celebrations this Sunday, whether or not your mom is still physically in your life. Raise a glass and toast her wherever she is and be grateful for your life today.
I know I will, and I am.