Ever since I discovered my mother’s address on the internet, I’ve sent her flowers for Mother’s Day, honoring her for the contribution she made to my current life here on Planet Earth.
For the first couple of years (since the address discovery), I sent her a Mother’s Day card and enclosed some packets of yellow and pink flower seeds. Last year, I sent her a real flower arrangement.
This year, I procrastinated. Didn’t get a card and didn’t order flowers. I wanted to send flowers again but money has been tight and I wasn’t sure I wanted to spend money on sending something to someone who doesn’t want me in her life. I could use that money to pay a doctor bill, you know.
I hemmed and hawed around in my head, trying to make a decision, not coming up with anything, going back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. Holy cannoli. What the hell. Just make a flipping’ decision already!
So I did.
I decided it’s the one time of year that I acknowledge her and I do it because it’s also the day that honors her for being my mother, for birthing me, for being there (such as it was) when I was growing up. And yes, because of all that, it’s the one day we’re actually “connected” whether she likes it or not. To me, it’s a celebration of all the “good” things that come with being a mother, and for making it through all the “bad” things that came with the same job description… and I think she deserves recognition for being my mother.
And thanks to the internet, I’ll probably always be able to find her wherever she goes. 
So, I just got off the phone (minutes ago) with Michelle at the florist nearest to my mom’s home – I ordered a bright, spring-y, lots-of-flowers arrangement in a “keepsake vase,” whatever that is. From Michelle’s description, it’ll be something like this photo to the right, although not exactly like this (because this is one of Teleflora’s special arrangements for M-Day and you can order this particular arrangement to be sent anywhere in the country that Teleflora delivers).
I think my mother will like it.
Since we all had to have a mother to be here on this planet at this time (other than test tube babies, although someone had to donate an egg or something, right?), I wish every one of us a Big Happy Day of Mom Celebrations this Sunday, whether or not your mom is still physically in your life. Raise a glass and toast her wherever she is and be grateful for your life today.
I know I will, and I am.
Lois, this is one of the reasons why I think your one of neatest people i know….and kind. What a heart. When I think of the relationships we all have or had with our mothers, so various, some good some not so good….your gesture for your mom shows what character you have. It boggles my mind that some moms, or any mom would choose to not be in their daughter’s life. I’m touched that you would do this. Reaching out, if she wants to acknowledge it, you make it possible. Thank you for doing that!
Thank you for your kind words, Debbie! It’s been a long 9+ years… I can’t begin to fathom how some parents can divorce their kids, especially mothers; it’s something I cannot even begin to imagine. I suppose if there was some reason for the disengagement, then maybe I could try to figure it out, but in my case, there was no reason other than my dad’s death and that he was no longer around to “keep me in the family” so to speak. The weirdest part for me is that both my brother and sister “went to the dark side” with my mom – neither one of them are interested in having me in their family anymore either. So weird!
My email address and phone number have not changed in over 10 years – if any of them wants to contact me, they all know how. In addition, the same internet that allowed me to find my mother’s address is available to them to find mine, if they want it. I’m not hiding!
Happy Mother’s Day, Debbie! Wishing you an awesome day ♡
Happy Mothers Day to you as well Lois! I am so happy to see you enjoying your son and that is how it should be!
Have a happy day!
Debbie, I don’t often see my son and he even more rarely calls; when I’m in Portland, he’s usually busy doing something that doesn’t allow for him to see me, too. I’ve made my own plans for Sunday – he’ll probably call late afternoon or evening. I’d love to be seeing more of him but it isn’t happening right now. Life goes on, doesn’t it? Be well, my friend ♡
What a kind a giving person you are. Your mom is missing out. Have a happy day Lois. Not just mothers day but every day. You deserve it.
Wishing you an awesome Mother’s Day, Linda, and every day! You deserve it, too – it’s been a challenging year for you, my friend. So happy to see you enjoying Alaska! Have a great summer!
Lois, Sending you {{{ HUGS }}} and lots of love for Mother’s Day.
Thanks, Nancy… Wishing you a nice weekend and big hugs to you ♡
You are one of a kind Lois! I wish you a very happy and good Mother’s Day whatever you will be doing. Enjoy yourself and do whatever you want on this special day for mother’s.
Thanks to a text from my son-in-law, I’ll be spending Mother’s Day with Mark and Nick ♡ I had already made other plans but since they were pretty flexible, the plans changed 😀 hehehehe thank goodness for flexible plans!
Happy Mother’s Day to you, too, Cyndi. Have an awesome day, enjoy the sun, do whatever comes to mind, and give Jane a big hug from me and tell her to give you one back from me. Blessings to you! ♡
I think that your mother will appreciate the flowers. I think that it was good of you to send them. Good luck with your arm healing.
I do hope she likes them but I’d send them even if she didn’t 😀
My arm is going to take a long time to heal; it’s been over 7 months and it’ll be another 6-9 months before the pain goes away. Or so I’ve been told. I will never regain full use of my hand but I think I’ve finally accepted that. I’ll just be happy when it quits hurting… onward and upward!
Lois I admit I am wiping tears as I read this and your replies to comments. You are a kind and loving person. I don’t know that I could be so big hearted in such a situation. Sending you hugs across the miles.
Sue, you are too kind! I owe my life to my mother and if I can respect her even a little bit with some beautiful flowers on the day that celebrates my existence through her, I consider it a honor to do so (and thank goodness for the internet!). Family dynamics can be crazy sometimes, right? Thanks for reading and leaving a comment. I truly appreciate you!