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Today would have been my little brother’s 58th birthday.

That’s him on the right in the glasses, in a photo taken when he was 10 years old.

The four of usArtie died of a self-administered drug overdose just 2 weeks before his 40th birthday.

He was always a gentle soul, sensitive to the outside world around him, even as a little kid. Instead of building his own treehouse, he helped me build mine to be the biggest, bestest in the neighborhood.  He was creative, kind, gifted, and resourceful.  He once sent me a small box of tiny beads he’d found somewhere under one of the bridges he lived under for fifteen years in Portland, Oregon, saying it was a box of creativity just waiting to happen.  It was just so “him” to say something like that.  Instead of making something for me out of the beads, like a bracelet, that would reflect something he liked, thinking I would like it, too, he wanted me to make my own “something” out of it.  Thoughtful.  Artie was that, too.

The years have allowed me to focus on the amazing person he was when he was alive on Planet Earth, even though I also know he was what I called at the time “a tortured soul.”  I believe he now has, and is, at peace.

I’ve often wondered what would have become of him had he not died when he did.  I’ve come to believe we choose the path our lives take while we’re here, and while the one he chose for himself was different than any path any of the rest of us would have chosen for him, it was his choice to live his life path as he chose to live it.  And he did.

I love you, little brother.  Thanks for choosing to be a part of my life.  You’ll always be a shining star in my book!


Thanks to my cousin, Tracie, for the photo – she found it somewhere recently and I got to be the recipient of an awesome treasure.  I have so few pics from my growing-up years and this is such a great pic of the four of us siblings – it was taken in early 1967. Tracie, you rock!

My Little Brother, Artie
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10 thoughts on “My Little Brother, Artie

  • March 3, 2014 at 10:53 am

    A beautiful and heart-felt tribute Lois. Thank you for sharing your brother’s light with the rest of us.

    • March 3, 2014 at 10:55 am

      Thank you so much, Nancy… he truly was a light under a bridge in Portland.

  • March 3, 2014 at 10:57 am

    Artie’s presence will always be with you, being the loving big sister you were, your memories of him will always be a good. So thankful that you were there for Artie always.
    love to you Lois.

    • March 3, 2014 at 10:59 am

      I feel his spirit all the time, Debbie. I was probably closer to him than either of my other siblings and grateful that I could be the “big sister.” Thanks, Debbie!

  • March 4, 2014 at 6:39 am

    Peace be upon him. And love to you, Lois. What is remembered lives.

    • March 4, 2014 at 8:55 am

      Yes, indeed, Ella… thank you for your peace and love ♥

  • March 4, 2014 at 12:13 pm

    I’m touched Lois, in fact tears are in my eyes sitting here waiting for my flight. Take care and as long as he is in your heart, he is remembered with love, which is all anyone can ask for

    • March 4, 2014 at 2:17 pm

      Kimberley, you have and are such a sweet heart! I hope your flight is uneventful, my friend 😀 Thank you for stopping by and commenting!

  • March 6, 2014 at 4:32 pm

    Very nice tribute to your brother . I can’t imagine that kind of loss. I pray you are both at peace.

    • March 6, 2014 at 5:00 pm

      Thank you so much, Linda. And yes, peace it is <3

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